I support your right to get married, pay less taxes than my partner and I do, and to receive benefits only available to heterosexual married couples. As a lesbian, I don’t want your wife. I don’t want to destroy your marriage. In fact, I celebrate with you the joy and wonder of becoming one.
When I see you in public, I don’t feel disgusted when you hold hands or show affection. In most cases, I think it’s sweet.
When I see you with your children, I am happy for you. Families are beautiful. It saddens me when families fall apart due to divorce or dysfunction. I wish for all of you a strong, happy, and healthy family life.
As a person advocating equal rights for the LGBTQ community, I am not out to ruin your marriage or family unit. Neither am I out to take away any of your rights and privileges.
If I were to play by the Conservative Christian rules and marry a man, it would not be a honest marriage (see Straight Spouse Connection: Exploring topics relevant to mixed-orientation families). I would not be genuinely loving or honoring to the man in my life – it would be an act that would eventually fail. It’s not that I don’t like men, I actually do. I think (most) men are wonderful human beings. The thing is, my heart, mind, and soul do not feel drawn to intimacy with a man.
I don’t know why I am a lesbian. There were plenty of times I tried to fight the feeling, and implement ex-gay strategies. However, the process of suppressing my sexuality slowly destroyed the person God designed me to be. If you read my story, you’ll see I went through a journey and discovered God’s love and acceptance of me, as I am.
I’m not asking you to befriend me, agree with me, or love me. Instead, I am asking for you to show the same respect to me that I offer to you. I’m asking for you to look at me as a human being, having the same needs for love and companionship as you do.
Our differences are minor, if you really think about it. You don’t want to know about the activity in my bedroom as much as I don’t want to know about the activity in your bedroom. Other than this, my home life and responsibilities are comparable to yours. My partner and I attend church, support local charities whenever possible, and care for our families. We have dreams, hobbies, interests, friends, jobs, coworkers, and daily joys and stresses – just like you.
If you are an Ally of the LGBTQ community, I thank you for all the things you’ve done to work towards equal rights.
If you are an enemy of our community, I forgive you for the things you’ve done out of hatred or fear (for more info on causes and history of homophobia, see Understanding the Construction of Homophobia as a Social Problem in Postwar America). I pray that God will bless you and your family, and for the day you will see our community through the eyes of love and compassion.
If you are considering changing your opinion about our community, then I urge you to meet and get to know someone who identifies as LGBTQ. Also, I hope you take the time to learn about our community and how homophobia affects all of us.
Thank you for reading this.
(a member of the same human race as you)