While it’s true there has been a recent epidemic of homophobic bullying towards LGBT youth, resulting in a few suicides, I wonder if we are missing the bigger picture by focusing only on this segment of society. I was one of those depressed teens, who had suicidal ideation, and a weak attempt or two. This could have been the result of childhood molestation, being bullied throughout middle school and high school (for reasons I never fully understood), feeling out of place (I never felt like I could fit in with my peers), or coming from a dysfunctional family who placed high expectations upon me. I didn’t realize I was different in terms of sexuality until I was a junior or senior in high school, and I didn’t come out until after high school. So, I couldn’t have been bullied for . . . Continue reading
The LGBT community often has been labeled as immoral, and disrespectful of any set of commonly held values. These accusations sometimes come from conservative religious groups, and sometimes from friends and family close to us. How would you describe your morals and values? Are there any major differences between yours and the morals and values of conservative religious groups? If so, what are those differences. What are the similarities? Basically, the heart of this question is: Would your friends and family consider you a person of integrity? Why or why not? (There are several questions below the post title. Feel free to answer any one or all, in any manner you’d like.)
Am I the only one to have noticed the preachers / ministers / pastors who say homosexual activity is a sin, tend to be Pentecostals / Charismatics / Evangelicals who at most have an undergraduate degree if not less? The preachers / ministers / pastors who say the opposite (homosexual activity is NOT a sin), tend to be from Mainline denominations (i.e. Episcopal, ELCA, etc.) who at the very least have an M.Div. (Master of Divinity) if not more education. These are generalizations made from personal observation. In no way am I saying a graduate degree is a necessary requirement to be a minister. However, if ministers (I’m thinking about big-time mega-church preachers, such as TD Jakes and Joel Osteen) are going to preach to countless people about the sinful nature of homosexuality, whether or not they know how it’s . . . Continue reading
(In response to the Guest Writer Form.) Warning from Administrator: Possible NSFW, PG-13 due to subject matter Submitted by: Alice I used to think that being a bisexual was a personal choice. When I was younger, I never cared about gay issues and I thought that all gay people CHOSE to be gay. It was only after I met my first love, (let’s call her Victoria), that my ideas completely flipped. Victoria changed me and made me into someone else completely different. Before I met her, I was an anti-gay Christian. I’ve always felt that I had bisexual tendencies, but I thought I had beaten them and turned completely straight. That was me throughout high school. But when I entered college, I met Victoria during the summer… I was 19 years old. I knew I loved her from the first . . . Continue reading
The Welcoming Conversations Project Resource Guide
Awesome list of books, publications, videos, and other websites to assist participants in the process of developing / nurturing a LGBTQ welcoming environment in their church and denomination.
(Originally posted on FB page) I was raised in the Assemblies of God church. I’m a preacher’s kid, missionaries’ grandchild and great grandchild. Exploring life beyond this environment was terrifying for me. I didn’t want to betray my heritage. And, when one is raised in a multi-generational religion, there’s a sense of superiority and pride – as if going to another denomination would be sacrilegious or a pathway to hell. These messages weren’t spoken, but implied. Once I got past my fears, I explored various denominations. I took the time to read up on the beliefs (doctrinal statements) of each place I visited. While I was attending an Assemblies of God Bible college, I visited an Episcopal church. Wanting to learn as much as I could, after reading their statement of beliefs, I made an appointment with the pastor to . . . Continue reading
Christina Aguilera – Beautiful (Originally posted on our FB page) Several years ago, a friend of mine practically forced me to listen to this song over and over until I took it to heart. It was during a time when I was on the fence between being gay, getting over an ex-girlfriend, and trying to become ex-gay. (Friend was encouraging the ex-gay part, out of love for me. I understood and accepted it from her.) At the time my friend shared this song with me, I hated it. I thought it was a very stupid song…. because I wasn’t being true to myself. Today I shared this song with someone I don’t know. And, I listened to it again while watching the video. I’m no longer ex-gay, or trying to please others by becoming someone I’m not. This song means . . . Continue reading